Printable Meeting Readings
The Printable Meeting Readings below are in meeting order:
Hello, my name is _____________ and I am your secretary for this meeting. May we have a moment of silence, followed by the serenity prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
We who live, or have lived, with the problem of alcoholism understand as perhaps few others can. We, too, were lonely and frustrated, but in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless, and that it is possible for us to find contentment, and even happiness, whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not.
We urge you to try our program. It has helped many of us find solutions that lead to serenity. So much depends on our own attitudes, and as we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thoughts and our lives.
The family situation is bound to improve as we apply the Al-Anon ideas. Without such spiritual help, living with an alcoholic is too much for most of us. Our thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions and we become irritable and unreasonable without knowing it.
The Al-Anon program is based on the Twelve Steps (adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous) which we try, little by little, one day at a time, to apply to our lives along with our slogans and the Serenity Prayer. The loving interchange of help among members and daily reading of Al-Anon literature thus make us ready to receive the priceless gift of serenity.
Al-Anon is an anonymous fellowship. Everything that is said here, in the group meeting and member-to-member, must be held in confidence. Only in this way can we feel free to say what is in our minds and hearts, for this is how we help one another in Al-Anon.
Many who come to Al-Anon are parents, spouses, friends, partners or children who are in despair, feeling hopeless, unable to believe that things can ever change with the person that is drinking. We want our lives to be different, but nothing we have done has brought about change. We all come to Al-Anon because we want and need help.
In Al-Anon members share their own experience, strength, and hope with each other. You will meet others who share your feelings and frustrations, if not your exact situation. We come together to learn a better way of life, to find happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not.
Statement on Anonymity
Members use their full names within the fellowship when they wish. The degree of anonymity a member chooses (first name, pseudonym, or full name) is not subject to criticism. Each member has the right to decide.
Regardless of our personal choice, we guard the anonymity of everyone else in the fellowship, Al‑Anon/Alateen and A.A. This means not revealing to anyone—even to relatives, friends, and other members—whom we see and what we hear at a meeting.
Anonymity goes well beyond mere names. All of us need to feel secure in the knowledge that nothing seen or heard at a meeting will be revealed. We feel free to express ourselves among our fellowAl‑Anons because we can be sure that what we say will be held in
Those members signing the back of our directories are willing to take program calls. Please take a signed directory at the end of the meeting. The sign-up binder going around allows us to contact you if there is an unforeseen problem with our meeting time or location. Signing your name is optional.
Bathrooms are located _____________ . There are more chairs located _____________. Would anyone be willing to help put back the tables and chairs after the meeting? Thank you.
Literature is on the table. Please see our literature person after the meeting if you would like to purchase books. Directories and pamphlets are free. Would the literature person please raise their hand? Thank you.
This meeting will hold a short business meeting on _____________, directly after the meeting. All are welcome to attend.
We rotate service positions every _____________ months in order to serve and not govern, according with the traditions. Our service positions are Secretary, Treasurer, Refreshments, Literature, (Speaker Seeker if applicable) and Meeting Greeter. We also have an Intergroup Rep. ( a year-long commitment) and a Group Rep. to our District (a three-year-long commitment). Would anyone like to volunteer to do service today?
The Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives andfriends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hopein order to solve their common problems.
We believe alcoholism is a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery.
Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity,organization, or institution; does not engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any cause.
There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self-supporting through its own voluntary contributions.
Al-Anon has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps, by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics, and by giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic.
The Three Obstacles to Success in Al-Anon
All Al-Anon discussions should be constructive, helpful, loving, and understanding. In striving toward these ideals, we avoid topics which can lead to dissension and that can distract us from our goals.
1. Discussion of religion: Al-Anon is not allied with any religion. It is a spiritual program, based on no particular form of religion. Everyone is welcome, no matter of what affiliation or none. Let us not defeat our purpose by entering into discussions concerning specific religious beliefs.
2. Gossip: We meet to help ourselves and others learn and use the Al-Anon philosophy. In such groups, gossip can have no part. We do not discuss members or others, and particularly not the alcoholic. Our dedication to anonymity gives people confidence in Al-Anon. Careless repeating of matters heard at Al-Anon meetings can defeat the very purpose for which we are joined together.
3. Dominance: Our leaders are chosen not to govern, but to serve. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority, or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, interchange of experience, and rotation of leadership. Any attempt to manage or direct is likely to have serious consequences for group harmony.
Introduction to the The Twelve Steps
What do you think living is for?
In Al-Anon we believe life is for growth, both mental and spiritual. That growth began, for most of us, when we accepted the fact that compulsive drinking was not a weakness but the result of a disease. We began to grow when we looked within ourselves and found weakness there - weakness in the way we had refused to meet our problems, in the way we had attributed all faults to the alcoholic, and in prolonged self-pity.
The Twelve Steps, for us, have been steps to a higher plane. From them we have learned we are less than perfect ourselves and are likely to remain so unless we learn to do something about it. In following the Steps, we can gain courage and serenity. Gradually, we leave weakness behind and learn that growth, though painful, is worth Seeking.
The Twelve Steps
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Introduction to The Twelve Traditions
The Traditions that follow bind us together in unity.
They guide the groups in their relations with other groups, with AA and the outside world.
They recommend group attitudes toward leadership, membership, money, property, public relations, and anonymity.
The Traditions evolved from the experience of AA groups in trying to solve their problems of living and working together. Al-Anon adopted these group guidelines and over the years has found them sound and wise.
Although they are only suggestions, Al-Anon’s unity and perhaps even its survival are dependent on adherence to these principles.
The Twelve Traditions
1. Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.
2. For our group purpose there is but one authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
3. The relatives of alcoholics, when gathered together for mutual aid, may call themselves an Al-Anon Family Group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation. The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.
4. Each group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting another group or Al-Anon or AA as a whole.
5. Each Al-Anon Family Group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps of AA ourselves, by encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives, and by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics.
6. Our Al-Anon Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. Although a separate entity, we should always cooperate with Alcoholics Anonymous.
7. Every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
8. Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
9. Our groups, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
10. The Al-Anon Family Groups have no opinion on outside issues; hence our name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV and films. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all AA members.
12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.
We will now go around the room and everyone will introduce themselves by their first name only. Hello, my name is _________________.
Would someone like to read today's reading from _____________?
The meeting is now open for sharing. Please keep your comments to _____________ minutes so all may share. (Optional: We have these friendly reminders when it is time to wrap up your comments: "Please wrap it up" sign, egg timers, etc.)
Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else; but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time.